Online Dating Tips

What a Girl Looks for in an Online Romance

Girls are easily available online nowadays. With the triumph of the social networking websites like the Orkut and the Facebook making their headway into the so-called online social arena, the only pastime for girls and boys seems to be scrapping. Scraps are instant messages they send out to their buddies on these websites only to get answered in seconds if the other guy or gal is also hanging out on the same lounge. And thereby the whole matter is set off which reaches a different dimension through phone calls and mobile messages in the second steps and a blind date on the third. Thus the online romance continues until the bubble bursts and the girl is again on Orkut to find a new mate.

Gone are the days when romance was something like a pearl in a shell. It was precious, not to be seen and felt by others but only to nurture the thoughts in your own mind and dream away to glory. You did not have the Internet them and it was the same old telephone and the letters that brought messages from the beloved. Some of these messages bore rose petals and written in blue papers with lovely envelopes. They smelt romance and that was the age when you could breathe romance to the full. You would get to see him only once in a day perhaps or for that matter once in a week when he used to come home from his boarding college or school. It was a whole week’s waiting with baited breath, lost in thoughts, a few poems written for him, and looking at a dried up rose he had presented you last time. It was lot of sighs and feelings and love and waiting. I call that romance.

An online romance is short. It is shortened by the urge to meet quickly on the part of both the girl and the boy and to get lost in bodily pleasures before knowing the mind. An online romance is not about the heart; it is about how the girl would look, whether the boy is tall enough, whether the boy has a car of his own or he drives his father’s, can he afford the costliest of the nightclubs, whether the girl is at all presentable. The girl does not have an inkling of what romance could actually be like. And therefore her ideas of romance are stuck to the materialistic gains. She cannot rise above the body and look up to the soul. Of course there are exceptions and such girls go beyond the barriers of the Internet to find out the true love for themselves.

Online romance is fun, a good pastime and a way to spend hours well when you are feeling low and bored. It is not something to build your hopes upon. Online romance for girls is fine if you come across the right guy at the right time but more often than not, you tend to meet the wrong people who exploit you to the last minutes. It is best to keep off online romance. Friendship or networking is a better word, although as the proverb goes, “A friend in need” etc. It is very difficult to find “a friend in need” these days. It does not take long for the pink bubble of online romance to burst. So stay ahead and don’t burn your fingers.