3 ways for men to give non-verbal cues to women

Men might be bolder and braver than women (sometimes!) but when it comes to speaking to the weak sex, all too often they chicken out or they lose their ability to concentrate. If you are too tongue-tied to make a good impression in conversation the first time, here are 3 non-verbal cues you can try to make a better impact.

Make the most of your appearance

Appearance

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You must be thinking, how can I look like Brad Pitt? That’s not the point here. You should simply make the best of what you have and improve your appearance rather than getting cosmetic surgery to finally look like Mr Pitt. Women supposedly pay less attention than men to appearances but who likes shiny jewelery after all? So make sure you shine as well. Clean, shiny shoes, well-pressed shirt and smart shoes, it’s not difficult to get it right for an evening out. If you are at a loss with color coordination, play safe like the rest of us with a white or blue shirt for men. Smaller details count as well: brushed hair, clean short nails, healthy skin, fresh breath.

Be confident

It’s important for men to exhude confidence. They are supposed to be the protectors, the alpha-male and the bread-winner. Women want to look up to men to feel secure, even if it’s not consciously. If you feel insecure in yourself, it will be a big turn-off for women. How are you supposed to take care of them if you don’t feel sure of yourself?

If you are sure of yourself, then don’t be afraid to show it. There is no need to brag about it, puff like a peacock or get a red Ferrari to show off. Instead, go for the subtle message: show it in your posture, in your body language.

• Sit straight. Don’t slouch at the bar or at the table.
• Make eye contact.  Face them with your body during a conversation for example.
• Walk tall. Go with a purpose, rather than dragging your feet along: back straight, shoulders pulled back slightly, chest pushed forward a tad, head looking straight ahead. If you were in the army, it should come easy to you.

You need to work on your confidence if you don’t have it. Being dressed to the nines as recommended above should help. After all, your exterior armour is all good and strong. Sometimes, improving your fitness level helps threefold in increasing your confidence.

1. You build a fitter body, stronger muscles and a better posture as explained.
2. Exercising will release plenty of hormones in your body and makes you more aware of your capabilities, especially if you make good progress.
3. If you play a team sports, it helps with bonding.

Spread your optimism

Now that you built your confidence and your appearance, you want to spread your new-found optimism. Women like nothing better than successful people, not losers. How do you show that? With the good old smile. A smile has always been a winner, or a killer move for men dating.

But there’s a right way and a wrong way to smile. Can you imagine a tiger smiling at an antelope? No, not possible? If it were, it would be smiling at a prey. Men might see themselves as hunters in the dating game but this sort of smile will not win them anything. Instead, practise on a genuine warm and friendly smile and learn how to improve your smile. How can you smile at strangers in a friendly way? You need to build some rapport with them first, however small it is. Find something you have in common. Found an attractive girl in a waiting room? Maybe you are both waiting for something similar. Found the receptionist attractive? Isn’t she there to help you? Next, you want to smile at someone, something. Smiling with a vague look in your eye will… well, you can imagine the rest. So again, be sure to make eye contact and dedicate your smile to someone in particular.

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